August 18, 2004 (first published July 30, 2002) (David Cloud,
Fundamental Baptist Information Service, P.O. Box 610368, Port
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The following article by the late
Bruce Lackey is like a cry in the wilderness today. There was a
time, just a few years ago, when a message like this was heard
from fundamentalist and independent Baptist pulpits across the
land. No longer. All too often, any kind of preaching about
clothing has become an oddity, an embarrassment. The resistance of
the rock & roll culture to such preaching is so pervasive that
many pastors have decided to ignore matters of dress. To do so,
though, is to ignore the fact that clothing is a language. George
Harrison of the Beatles, who rebelled against the way his father
wanted him to act and dress, testified: “Going in for flash
clothes, or at least trying to be a bit different … was
part of the rebelling. I never cared for authority” (Hunter
Davies, The Beatles, p. 39). The designer who invented the
mini-skirt admitted that her aim was to entice men and promote
licentiousness. Vivienne Westwood, who helped create the rock punk
look, said, "I think fashion is the strongest form of
communication there is. … It’s only interesting to me if it’s
subversive: that’s the only reason I’m in fashion, to destroy the
word ‘conformity’" (Jon Savage, Time Travel: Pop, Media and
Sexuality 1976-96, p. 119). Hair styles are also statements.
Long hair on men and short hair on women are not merely harmless
fashions but are statements of rebellion against God’s created
order (1 Corinthians 11:14,15). The androgynous unisex image was
not innocent. It was created by rock musicians who consciously
intended to overthrow tradition. One of the rock songs of the
1960s called upon young men to grow their hair long and “let your
freak flag show.” David Lee Roth of Van Halen testified: “[My long
hair] is a flag. It’s Tarzan. I’ll always be anti-establishment”
(cited by John Makujina, Measuring the Music, p. 73).
Dennis Wilson of the Beach Boys sported long hair and popularized
the "surfer cut" in the early 1960s. Commenting on the
significance of this hair length, Wilson’s biographer observes:
“The ‘surfer cut,’ as it came to be known, was a radical thing to
behold in 1962. Few parents would permit their sons to sport the
look” (Jon Stebbins, Dennis Wilson: The Real Beach Boy, p.
24). Dennis Wilson was a rebel and his appearance was merely a
reflection of this. Paul McCartney of the Beatles mockingly
acknowledges their role in overthrowing sexual distinctions:
“There they were in America, all getting house-trained for
adulthood with their indisputable principle of life: short hair
equals men; long hair equals women. Well, we got rid of that small
convention for them. And a few others, too” (Barbara Ehrenreich,
“Beatlemania: Girls Just Wanted to Have Fun,” cited by Lisa Lewis,
The Adoring Audience: Fan Culture and Popular Media, p.
If ever there were a time in which preachers need to warn their
people about clothing issues, it is today. Standards of morality
are not to be left the pew or the home. It is the obligation of
the preacher to set forth these things. Has God not given clear
standards? We know that holiness is a matter of the heart, but is
it not a matter of the body, as well? Every man knows that it is.
What man has ever lusted after a woman’s heart! How, then, can we
ignore this part of Scripture and refuse to preach it boldly and
uncompromisingly? That is what the New Evangelical does. He has
determined that there are some things he will not preach.
Separation is one of them. But the Bible speaks as much about
moral separation as it does about ecclesiastical separation. The
faithful fundamentalist cannot ignore either.
Those who are crying “legalism” today are hypocritical in this
matter. They, too, draw lines for clothing, even as they decry the
old-time fundamentalist for the lines he draws. For example, will
they allow a woman to teach a Sunday School class in a bikini? Of
course not. They draw lines. And if it is right to draw a line in
clothing; it is wise to draw the line at a biblical place.
Let’s make a clear difference between ourselves and the world.
Let’s stand in the old paths. Those who are giving up high, plain
standards of holiness in dress and are moving closer and closer to
the fashions of the world should remember that the world is moving
farther and farther from God’s Word.
I commend to you the following excellent message by Pastor Bruce
BIBLE GUIDELINES FOR CLOTHING
By Bruce Lackey
The thing I want to talk to you about tonight is Christian
clothing. What do we mean when we say “Christian clothing”? Is that
some particular article? No, we can’t hang a particular suit or a
particular dress up here tonight and say this is Christian. Rather,
there are five questions that you need to ask yourself to answer the
question, “What kind of clothing should I wear?” There are five
questions, and I am going to support these by God’s Word.
I hope you will get these down, because you are going to face this
all your life. Fashions are going to change and new things are going
to be brought out all the time. There is no use in me making up a
list of what is good and what is not, because that would change next
year. So these five principles from God’s Word will help you to
decide every single item, whether it be right or wrong to wear, male
or female, adult or child.
IS IT WORN BY THE OPPOSITE SEX?
The first question is this: Is it worn by the opposite sex? Turn
back to Deuteronomy 22:5 for our beginning. Here is our first
principle. When I am trying to decide whether or not I should wear a
certain thing, my first question is “Is that item worn by the
opposite sex?” In other words, I as a man should not wear anything
that a woman would wear. And a woman should not wear anything that a
man would wear.
“The woman shall not wear that
which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s
garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy
I am well aware of the fact that
people resent using this verse because it is in the Old Testament.
And many times people say we can’t use that verse unless we are
going to use the whole chapter. For instance, we wouldn’t want to
use verse nine. A lot of people violate that verse by planting two
or three different kinds of seeds in the same plot of ground.
Similarly, we’ve all violated verse eleven about wearing garments
with different kinds of cloth. Nearly everything we have on is made
out of a weave of different things. So how can we take verse five
and not take verse nine or verse eleven?
Here is the principle for rightly dividing the Word of Truth: Any
principle found in the Old Testament which is repeated in the New
Testament is for us today. Let me prove that to you. Keep your place
at Deuteronomy and go over to 1 Corinthians 10. In 1 Corinthians 10
we have a book written by a grace preacher. Nobody can deny that the
Apostle Paul was a grace preacher. He preached that we’re not under
the law but under grace, and he wrote about that time and time
again. Without a doubt he is a New Testament preacher. But I want
you to notice that in this entire chapter of 1 Corinthians 10 he
constantly uses the Old Testament Scripture to prove something. Look
at verses one and two: “Moreover, brethren, I would not that ye
should be ignorant, how that all our fathers were under the cloud,
and all passed through the sea; And were all baptized unto Moses in
the cloud and in the sea.” That was taken from Exodus 13 and 14, in
which passage we read about the cloud, and about the Red Sea
parting, and how they walked across on dry land, which was similar
to being baptized. They were covered with the water, even though not
a drop of it touched them. Paul is referring to the Old Testament.
Look at verse three: “And did all eat the same spiritual meat.” That
refers to Exodus 16, when God gave the manna from Heaven. That was
called spiritual food. Verse four: “And did all drink the same
spiritual drink: for they drank of that spiritual Rock that followed
them: and that Rock was Christ.” That refers to Exodus 17, when
Moses took his rod and struck the rock, and God gave gushing water
out of that flinty rock.
Notice that he is referring to several Old Testament incidents.
Verse five: “But with many of them God was not well pleased: for
they were overthrown in the wilderness.” That is referring to
Numbers 13 and 14. They refused to go into the land of Israel and
inherit it, and they said, “We can’t take it,” and so God overthrew
them in the wilderness. Many of them died.
Now look at verse six. “Now these things were our examples, to the
intent we should not lust after evil things, as they also lusted.”
You see. It’s not wrong to use the Old Testament to teach New
Testament Christians to do something right. Paul did it.
Let’s keep on going. Verse seven: “Neither be ye idolaters, as were
some of them; as it is written, The people sat down to eat and
drink, and rose up to play.” Here he refers to Exodus 22:6. The
Apostle says, “Don’t you be like that.” Verse eight: “Neither let us
commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day
three and twenty thousand.” That is talking about Numbers 25. Verse
nine: “Neither let us tempt Christ, as some of them also tempted,
and were destroyed of serpents.” That is talking about Exodus 17.
You remember about the brazen serpent being raised in the middle of
the camp, and so on.
Look at verse ten: “Neither murmur ye, as some of them also
murmured, and were destroyed of the destroyer.” That is found in
Exodus 15, 16 and 17, among many other places; they murmured several
Now look at verse eleven: “Now all these things happened unto them
for ensamples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom
the ends of the world are come.” Two times in these chapter, in
verse six and in verse eleven, he tells us without a doubt that
those Old Testament writings were for us today. It is a foolish and
fictitious objection when someone says that we can’t use the Old
Testament for us today. Here he very clearly outlines verse after
verse, experience after experience in the Old Testament, to prove
something that Christians ought to do right now. And that’s not the
end. In the rest of the chapter he does it again and again.
We can go by the Old Testament. What is our rule? Any Old Testament
principle repeated in the New Testament is for us today. Now you
won’t ever find a New Testament verse that says observe the sabbath
day. That is the reason we don’t do it. You won’t find any New
Testament verse that says we are to kill an animal and have a blood
sacrifice. That’s the reason we don’t do it. But anything commanded
in the Old Testament and repeated in the New Testament is for us
Having examined 1 Corinthians 10 to establish that principle, we now
come to chapter 11 where he refers to the appearance of man and
woman. Specifically he talks about hair, but very clearly in 1
Corinthians 11 the Apostle says that the man and the woman ought to
have their appearance different. Notice verses four and five: “Every
man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth
his head. But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head
uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she
You see what he is saying? There is to be a difference between man
and woman when they pray or prophesy. There is to be a difference.
That is the same principle we saw back in Deuteronomy 22:5--”The
woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall
a man put on a woman’s garment...” It is the same idea.
Paul goes on to talk about the length of the hair. Notice verses
fourteen and fifteen: “Doth not even nature itself teach you, that,
if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him? But if a woman have
long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a
covering.” Once again he underscores the principle that the
appearance of men and women is to be different. Consequently, we
have the same principle in Deuteronomy 22:5 repeated right here in
the New Testament.
Let me share something with you that is very interesting. I have in
my library a book called The Treasury of Scripture Knowledge.
It is one of the most beneficial books I have ever owned. It is
simply a book of parallel references, just like the center reference
column you have in your Bible, but it is greatly expanded. This book
was printed over one hundred years ago, back when they weren’t
having many of the problems we are having today with women wearing
men’s clothes, and vise versa. So you couldn’t say they were
prejudiced about this subject when they put the cross references in
that volume. The Treasury of Scripture Knowledge at
Deuteronomy 22:5 has a parallel reference of 1 Corinthians 11:3-14.
That’s interesting, isn’t it? You know what that proves? It proves
that men that study the Bible, not just in our day but years ago,
have seen that 1 Corinthians 11 contains the same principle that is
stated in Deuteronomy 22:5.
I don’t hesitate to use Deuteronomy 22:5 to prove that women ought
not to wear men’s clothes, and men ought not to wear women’s
clothes, any more than I would hesitate to use Psalm 23 at a
funeral. You see, the truths are repeated in the New Testament.
I was also interested in what I found in the Keil and Deiletch
commentary regarding this matter. That commentary was first printed
more than a hundred years ago. Charles Spurgeon refers to Keil and
Deiletch. Yet Keil and Deiletch say that Deuteronomy 22:5 was
written to maintain the sanctity of the distinction of the sexes
which was established by the creation of man and woman. In other
words, anybody who reads the Bible can see that all the way through
in every age and every testament God has said that He wants men and
women to look different. Consequently we ought not to wear clothing
that applies to the opposite sex.
Of course, the main issue that we are facing here is the matter of
pants on women. It matters not what you call them, whether blue
jeans or slacks or pant suits. It is a main problem today. People
like to argue about this. They say you can’t condemn pants on a
woman unless you are going to say that women can’t wear belts,
because men wear belts. Likewise you would have to say that women
can’t wear socks, or shirts, because men wear socks and shirts.
What do we say about this? Consider some simple things to keep in
mind. First, we are talking about the obvious. We’re not talking
about some hidden thing, like a belt, that doesn’t have anything to
do with the sex of the person, that doesn’t have anything to do with
Second, what do you look like when you wear these clothes? What do
you look like from a distance? You’ve had the same experience that
I’ve had of being out in public and seeing somebody at a distance
and not being really sure if that person is a male or a female. You
can’t tell by the clothes, because girls wear pants just like boys
do. They wear T-shirts just like boys do. The boys often have their
hair just as long as the girls [or the girls’ just as short as the
boys’], so you look at someone from a distance and you often cannot
tell if the person is a male or a female. The only way you can tell
is to look at those portions of the body that distinguish between
male and female, and by the way, that is the Devil’s reason behind
all of it. That is what he wants you to look at. He doesn’t want you
to look at somebody’s head; he wants you to look other places. That
is one of the things that makes this so wrong, and we need to see
that. We should not wear clothing which at a distance would make
anybody wonder whether we are male or female.
The best place to start on this is when the child is born. If you
start when the child is born, you won’t ever have to make any
changes. If you don’t start then, you’ll always be wondering when
you should make this change. Just start right in the beginning. Cut
the baby boy’s hair like a boy’s hair should be cut, and don’t put
feminine clothes on him. Put pants on him. And if it is a girl,
don’t put pants on her; put a dress on her.
You see, all these questions that people argue about can be settled
just by plain old common sense. The principle is to let the
appearance be different enough that folks won’t have any doubt.
That’s the way to answer it all. You don’t have to get everybody’s
O.K. on this piece of clothing, or that one, just draw the line and
determine to wear something that no one will ever have a doubt
about. It’s going to look like man’s clothing. It’s going to look
like women’s clothing.
What about women working out in the field? What about women working
in factories? What about women who have to climb ladders? Don’t they
need something modest? Yes, they do need something modest. I used to
see women out in the field picking cotton and so on. I used to see
them wear overalls, but I also saw some of them put dresses on over
their overalls. That was a common thing when I was a boy. Now I know
that some of them didn’t wear dresses over their overalls. Some of
them did other things that were wrong, too. You know, too, there are
some other things to wear, such as culottes, which are just as
modest and still look feminine. That’s what you ought to wear. If
you can’t buy any, get a sewing machine and learn how to sew. It’s
worth the expense and trouble to make that adjustment if you are
going to have convictions.
Do not wear clothing that the opposite sex wears. And if you are in
doubt about it, just don’t and you will be safe. Just make sure that
what you wear identifies you as a male or as a female, and not in a
way that a person would have to look at the tempting zones of the
body to tell whether you are a male or female. That is what the
Devil wants you to do, and surely you don’t want to cooperate with
the Devil on this matter.
WHAT DOES IT MAKE OTHERS THINK OF ME?
Here is the second question you need to ask yourself about
Christian clothing: What does it make others think of me? Lest you
say it doesn’t matter what other people think, let me read a verse
or two of Scripture, and then let me read you some illustrations
from modern literature which say that it does matter. In Proverbs
7:10 the Scripture has a warning to a young man against immorality:
“And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot,
and subtil of heart.” God is warning about a woman dressed like a
harlot. Now the question we ask is how is a harlot dressed? Have you
ever seen a program on television in which they show a woman posing
as a prostitute? If you have watched any of the police shows you see
that. She may be a prostitute; she may be posing as one; she may be
an undercover agent; she may be the hero; she may be the victim; she
may be the bad guy, whatever. You have seen that and you know how
they are dressed. You know exactly that she is a prostitute before
they ever tell you. Of course, they don’t use that term; they use
the word “hooker.” Perhaps you have seen a television news broadcast
which shows these women on the streets as they’re out searching for
business. All you have to do is look at the way they are dressed.
The bad thing about is that some Christian people dress the same
way. Now, you don’t want anybody to think that about you. You might
wonder if people really think that about you. Yes, they do.
Here’s an article from McCall’s magazine. McCall’s is
not a Christian magazine. The editors are not trying to defend the
Christian faith or propagate the Bible. Here’s an article in
McCall’s magazine entitled “What Your Intimate Behavior Says
About You.” I’m going to read this. It may be offensive to some, but
the words are not nearly as offensive as the way some people dress.
We need to be honest and frank about this thing. It’s not going to
be vulgar, but plain. The writer says,
“The female legs have also been
the subject of considerable male interest as sexual signaling
devices. The mere exposure of leg flesh has been sufficient to
transmit sexual signals. Needless to say, the higher the exposure
goes the more stimulating it becomes for the simple reason that it
then approaches the primary genital zone.”
That’s what it’s all about folks,
and we had better wake up and realize it. He goes on to say, talking
about the primary genital zone of the body,
“The first way to accentuate is
to employ articles of clothing which underline the nature of the
organ hidden beneath them. For the female this means wearing
Now the fellow that wrote this is
not a preacher. As a matter of fact, in this article he is telling
you how to send sexual signals by the way you dress. He continues:
“The way to emphasize the nature
of the organs of the body is by wearing these clothing: trousers,
shorts, or bathing costumes, that by their tightness reveal...”
This is what people think when they
see you dressed this way. In the Family Weekly magazine they
had a true or false question and answer section.
“Question: What you communicate
wordlessly has more effect on people than what you say? Answer:
This is true. ... Question: People use clothes as a means of
communicating with others? Answer: True. Psychological studies at
Britain’s University of Newcastle have demonstrated that people
use clothes to tell others what they want them to believe about
In other words the wearer is not
trying to tell others what he is really like, but is trying to
communicate his ideal self image, the kind of person he wishes he
was. That’s what these experts say. What you wear says something
I know very well that not everybody who wears the items of clothing
mentioned in the McCall’s article has an immoral motive.
Here’s what I’m trying to get you to see: Whether you like it or
not, this is what other people think. As a Christian, somebody
interested in holiness, in winning people to Christ and getting
people’s minds off of sin, we need to go entirely the other way.
Whether you realize it or not, men look at certain portions of the
body; and it doesn’t matter whether you think that is good, bad, or
otherwise, they are going to do it. And if you wear clothing that
attracts attention to that, you are just helping them in their sin.
That’s why a dress, unless it’s too tight, is better than pants;
because a dress does not draw the attention to that part of the body
that people look at and lust after.
I have a lot of other articles, but I have time for only one more.
An article appeared in the Richmond Times-Dispatch, Richmond,
Virginia, and the writer of the article was Anthony Surbony, a
personnel manager for a large corporation. He had interviewed more
than 14,000 men for jobs in the past years that he had been there.
He said that the length of a person’s hair tells a lot about him.
Here’s a man after 14,000 interviews. He said the left-wingers
generally have long hair.
“They reject self-discipline,
authority, regulation, proven logic and reasoning. They are more
easily swayed by popular opinions and propaganda. They tend to
accept and do anything if somebody simply suggests it’s a style.
Many employers find that they tend to be more dreamers than doers,
where the reverse is the trend on men with short hair. Why is it
so? Mainly it is due to a self-centered personality.”
I have been saying that for a long
There are certain things that I like about women that I don’t like
on men. I like for women to look nice, and it doesn’t bother me at
all to see a woman in front of a mirror primping and fixing her
hair. But it just about makes me want to throw up to see a man do
that, and I’ve seen men do that very thing, just like a woman.
I quote further from the article mentioned above. He said long hair
indicates a self-centered personality.
“The liberal left-winger seems to
be more selfish and only aspire to goals that will benefit them
individually, regardless of what it costs to others. They actually
believe that long hair is beautiful on a man and they feel naked
without it. They try to make up for lack of ability by attracting
attention, or becoming a sex symbol. Long haired liberals also
reject the basic hunter/warrior responsibilities of man. They seem
to think that society should provide for them and that someone
else should guarantee protection. Or else they don’t really
believe that there are any enemies. In fact, some tend to bow
before enemies, hoping to gain friendship.”
Men have lost the basic
responsibility that God inbred into a human being to fight for what
is his and to provide for what is his. Men reject that, and the
first thing you know, they think the government owes them a living.
They don’t feel responsible to go out make a living any more. It all
goes together. We must remember that this man is an expert in
When I am considering what kind of clothes to wear, I need to ask
myself this question: What does it make other people think about me?
PREDOMINATELY, WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE DRESS THAT WAY?
Here is the third question we need to ask: Predominately, what
kind of people dress that way?
Do you think that a policeman who is going to be an undercover agent
would dress like I am dressed? Do you think his hair would be as
short as mine is? No, sir. Every policeman that I have ever seen or
heard about in the last twenty years that became an undercover agent
around the bars and gambling dens let his hair grow long, and wore
sloppy, slouchy clothes, because that is the kind of people they are
trying to catch. I don’t want to look like that kind of person. It’s
not because I think I’m better than they are. It’s because when
Jesus saved me, He jerked me up out of that. That’s what I used to
be. I don’t want to be that anymore. I don’t want folks to think
I’ve gone back to that.
See, here is the third question. Predominately, what kind of people
wear the kind of clothes you are thinking of wearing? If it’s the
wrong kind, you surely don’t want to identify yourself with it.
MUST I USE THE ARGUMENTS OF THE WORLD TO JUSTIFY IT?
Here is the fourth question: Must I use the arguments of the
world to justify it?
“Where is the wise? where is the
scribe? where is the disputer of this world? hath not God made
foolish the wisdom of this world?” I Cor. 1:20
“That your faith should not stand
in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God.” I Cor. 2:5
“For this cause we also, since
the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to desire
that ye might be filled with the knowledge of his will in all
wisdom and spiritual understanding.” Col. 1:9
If you read these verses you find
out there is a difference between the wisdom of the world and
spiritual wisdom. A Christian is in trouble when he has to resort to
the wisdom of the world to justify what he is doing. We ought to be
able to use the wisdom of God. If I am going to defend my position I
ought to be able to go to the Bible and use spiritual wisdom to do
it. God help us if we have to use worldly wisdom to justify our
clothing or actions.
WILL IT CAUSE OTHERS TO STUMBLE?
Here is the fifth question: Will it cause others to stumble?
“It is good neither to eat flesh,
nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth, or
is offended, or is made weak.” Rom. 14:21
King David walked on his roof top.
He was lazy; he was disobedient; he was out of God’s will. But also
he saw a woman washing herself. She was either out in a yard where
everybody could see her, or else she was in the house without the
curtains drawn. And she was equally guilty in that lusting
experience. I know David was out of God’s will and should have been
out fighting the battles, because the Bible starts off that chapter
by saying that it was the time that kings went out to war that David
stayed at home. I know that was wrong, and she likewise was wrong in
taking a bath where a man could see her.
What you do or what you wear, will it cause somebody to stumble? Now
you might say the other fellow has to look out for himself. That is
not what the Bible says. The Bible says, “It is good neither to eat
flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother
stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak.” We are responsible.
[Note from Brother Cloud: Under the topic of causing others to
stumble, we would mention the SLIT SKIRTS AND DRESSES which are so
popular in the female fashion industry today. The obvious purpose
for this fashion is to tease men with the flashing effect that is
created. It is strangely enticing. Even if the slit is below the
knee the effect is very sensual. A few months ago we asked a group
of young Bible college men if they were tempted sexually by slit
skirts, and every one of them admitted that they are. This should
speak volumes to Christian women and young ladies to avoid this
We have considered five good tests regarding clothing. Is it
worn by the opposite sex? What does it make other people think of
me? What kind of people dress that way? Must I use the argument of
the world to defend it? Will it cause anybody else to stumble?
In closing, let me encourage you to have some Christian convictions,
and let me make some strong suggestions to you about these.
Number one, make sure your convictions are biblically based.
When you believe something is wrong, you had better have a good
Bible reason for believing it. You ought to know where the Bible
talks about that, and if you don’t think you can remember it, write
it down so you can show people. Have biblically based convictions,
not just opinions.
Number two, when you have a conviction, be firm. Don’t waver
no matter what crowd you are with, no matter what environment you
find yourself in. If it is wrong to wear a bathing suit walking down
the street, it is wrong to wear one in the swimming pool. The water
doesn’t have anything to do with it. That is why you have to be
careful about where you go swimming. Do you expose your body to the
lustful thoughts of others? They are going to think it whether you
like it or not. Be firm in your convictions.
Number three, be kind when you have convictions. Don’t be a
smart alek. When the time comes to express yourself, or to say no,
or to give a reason, be kind about it. Learn your reasons, and know
them, and don’t be nervous, and don’t be angry, and don’t be snappy.
Be kind about it.
Number four, don’t act superior. Don’t act like you are
better than somebody else. That’s the first charge they are going to
make against you, I guarantee you. Anytime you ever have a
conviction about anything, whether it be about music, or drinking
liquor, others are going to say that you think you are better than
they are. People have been saying that for centuries. That is not
anything new. So don’t act superior. Just let them know you aren’t
going to do that thing.
Number five, if you have to talk to somebody about these
things deal with the heart first. All of this is a matter of the
heart. You might get somebody straightened out on the matter of the
clothes they ought to wear and they still be just as lost as they
were before you met them. Before I talk to anybody about clothes or
anything else, the first thing I want to know is what about the
heart? Have you been saved? Acts 15:9. Has your heart been purified
by faith? Romans 10:9. Have you believed in your heart that God
raised Christ from the dead? The first thing I want to know is about
the heart and salvation. All that I said here tonight applies to
those who are saved. If you haven’t been saved, it’s not going to
help you your soul one way or the other to change your clothes. It’s
not going to help at all. If Jesus does not live in your heart, that
is your first need. You first have to come to Christ.
If you are saved it is still a matter of the heart. If I were
talking to a Christian about this, the first thing I would want to
talk to him about would be the heart. Is your heart right with God?
If your heart’s not right with God, you are not going to be able to
understand any of this. You’re going to resent every argument, and
resent anybody even bringing up this discussion.
The Bible talks about the heart. Hebrews 10:22--”Let us draw near
with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts
sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed with pure
water.” God is talking to Christian people there. And in verses 24
and 25, “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to
good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as
the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the
more, as ye see the day approaching.” It’s a matter of the heart.
Thank you to David
Cloud of Way of Life Literature for the permission to use this