I perceive two problematic themes running through "Wild at Heart".
First is the idea that God's plan for a man is adventure.
Several men who are good friends and mature Christians have told me this was
their major (and favorable, to my surprise) reaction to this book.
Throughout the book, Eldredge brings in the word "dangerous", implying
that it's a major component in God's life as well as man's. While Eldredge
can be assumed to be speaking metaphorically about the Lord,
it’s a stupid thing to say about the omni powerful God of the universe. He
who is and was and ever shall be, Who holds all of His creation
together by His own will – He faces no danger! Who can successfully oppose
Him? I believe that if a man follows God's will, he will
experience adventure, but said adventure isn't the point. This viewpoint is
flawed because it is focused on man, not God. When I was
in the army, we who were leaders were told by bureaucrats that the number 1
priority of a training mission was safety. Hogwash! If safety
was #1, we would have stayed in bed. It's important, but not the REASON for
the mission. Our REASON for being here on planet Earth is
to glorify God. For some, that means lying in bed with sickness praying
daily for the saints. For others, it means torture and death in the
jungle of Ecuador. The route taken, and the adventure quotient therein, is
not the reason for the trip (life). Lives drawn to Christ are the
measure of success, which we will not be able to adequately discern until
after the "adventure." To use our own sense of satisfying
adventure as the indication of being in God’s will tends to put self on the
throne rather than God. Just as any self-centered perspective will.
We who are earth-bound cannot glorify God unless we love Him – the greatest
commandment which fulfills the entire law. Throughout
scripture, obedience to God is the call, better than sacrifice, more
important than winning wars – the greatest adventure possible for
humans. Three times in John 14 Christ, himself tells us that IF we love Him
we will obey Him. Obedience leads to holiness. Obedience
pleases the Father. Obedience demonstrates our love for Him. Second is the
recurring reference to Robert Bly, of "naked men beating drums
in the forest" fame, with an implicit endorsement of this man without any
qualifications at all. Bly is a pagan (or was when he wrote
"Iron John") and Christians must always be careful about recommending
nonbiblical sources. There are more than enough Christian examples
of men that God has provided; no need to use men that Satan has provided
(let us not forget that there is no demilitarized zone in the
spiritual war Christ described.) Here then are my specific notes:
Pg 48 - "Desire reveals design." So many desires are the
product of a wicked heart and do not reveal God's design for man. This
generalization
is too dangerous (there's that word again!) to be left alone. Does a man’s
heart ever desire sex with a woman to whom he is not married? This basic
desire is the basis for what I estimate to be well over half of the
advertising in our country. This desire does not reveal God’s design for any
man.
pg 79, second paragraph: "Turn the other cheek" equates to
"stripping him of his strength." Therefore, boys ought to be taught to fight
back, Eldredge says. 'Tis true that there are times when a boy must fight
back, but this is man’s teaching, not Christ’s. Eldridge says,
"Jesus was able to retaliate ... but He chose not to." He fails to note that
THIS is the definition of masculinity, and then tells men that
because Jesus turned the other cheek, our sons must NOT – and should fight
back. How can a rational person cite the teaching of Christ
(turn the other cheek) as a basis for doing the opposite? Eldredge sets up
two extremes and declares one of them to be God's will.
Life ain't that simple. Boys must be taught to discern when they must fight
back and how to turn the other cheek. The more mature
one becomes, the more turning of the cheek occurs.
pg 87, "The enemy fears you!" Yeah, right - a Bob Larson
view. In truth, the enemy fears Christ in me; he isn't impressed with me at
all.
So many teach the same lie as this without thinking about the important
distinction. We are to worship the Lord our God with our whole
heart, strength, soul, and MIND. We are to test all things, not accept a few
things which sound good.
pg 115, "God in His humility gave us Eve." This made me
wretch. The only time God is recorded in scripture as being humble is when
He
took on human form and Christ submitted Himself to the Father in all things.
God the Father, humble? Not in my Bible! I don’t even know
why Eldridge threw this line in the book.
pg 166, "You are a huge threat to Satan." Same issue as with
pg 87.
pg 174, "Rebuke the enemy in your own name and he laughs;
command him in the name of Christ and he flees." More Larson theology.
Can't find instruction in scripture to rebuke Satan, only resist him. We
suit up and stand in faith, Christ takes care of Satan, not waiting
on my command. Again, this is an important line to recognize; because all of
Satan’s lies are God’s truths twisted just enough to deceive
us without being a frontal attack. Now there are good points throughout the
book as well: Masculinity cannot be properly bestowed or
validated by women, men have the role here.
Also, as he points out on pg 164, "the battle is in your
mind." This is the most important
point in the book and one most Christians fail to comprehend! I perceive
that the favorable reaction so many Christian men have for this
book is that they are not using their minds to examine it in light of Gods
truth, they are responding emotionally to its “right sounding”
message.
There are too many problems for me in this book to buy it or
recommend it. The guys I know who are excited about it seem
drawn to the (Robert Bly) notion that God wants us to have a great
adventure! This strikes me just like those who think God wants
them to be happy and healthy. His word says He wants us to be holy - and
then our lives will be what He makes of them. Find me
one reference in scripture where the Lord’s desire for us is “adventure” and
I will reconsider my main objection to this book.
“Adventure!” It sounds too much like an invitation to take another bite from
the apple.
Sincerely,
Stuart Brogden
August, 2002